Being at Peace – Loss & Grief – A Struggle

A lot has happened in my life in recent months, many things that I would not have imagined to experience or be required to ‘deal’ with – The roller coaster of emotions and grief has left me contemplating so many aspects of my life, my past, memories, choices and emotional attachments.  The loss of my mother is still raw, deep and debilitating – not every day – but some days…grief is a process and while some time has passed the emotion and loss is fresh in many moments throughout my day.

I am not alone.  Each of us struggles with something in our lives that unsettles our balance.  Emotional pain, loss, stress, financial issues, feeling lost or wondering what our life is supposed to mean…

Finding something that motivates you in your work, inspiration in a form of art (poetry, painting, gardening…etc) is important.  Many of us have lost sight of what makes us happy, inspires and motivates us to achieve more – in whatever area you feel you need to gain; financially, spiritually, in a relationship or just being at peace with yourself in this moment in your life.

The people in your life should make you feel good, not tired, drained, distraught or overwhelmed. You should not have to second guess yourself, monitor your feelings, words or actions.  In grief and the recovery of loss we all lose something in our cognitive thought process.  It is strange and annoying but it happens.  Mistakes are made, thoughts tangled, feelings mixed…judging someone should not be an option – every individual must work through their loss and grief in their own way. Not everyone believes this, nor do they necessarily attempt to be supportive and understanding of how events are truly and deeply affecting someone. It is a sad reality that there is always one person who must give more of themselves and make sacrifices to appease or keep the peace with others. This unbalanced duality is real, not everyone understands what others are truly going through, so we make the best of each day and try to manage our lives in the best way possible under the circumstances that may or may not be of our own doing…

Should you feel or think badly because of the way in which you are handling your particular loss, working through your grief and trying to overcome the shadow of loss that lingers every day?  I am tired of attempting to prove myself to those who are not receptive or accepting of what it is that affects me.  When we cut the ties it is like a weight has been lifted…while you are not healed you do feel some release of tension because you can concentrate on your own recovery.  Toxic relationships whether casual or intimate in nature are not beneficial to anyone.  It is hard to let go and be who you are, who you need to be to move on with your life in a calmer and more peaceful state.

Is it possible to regain what has been lost?  Self identity, esteem, the trust and love of family or friends…Do you need to regain certain things if they are inherently bad for you?  Trying to understand what is going on with the people who are in your life can be taxing…is it worth the time to mend broken relationships after a betrayal, loss or other negative experience?  Do you put yourself on guard again by reopening the doors of the past, attempt to embrace those who have severely hurt you – whether they realize it or not?

Where do we go from here?  How can we move on?

Keep working to find peace, balance and belief in yourself.  Wish others well but never compromise your own principles in order to gain favor with them.  Time and again we have experienced the changes that happen in relationships when a loved one is lost to us…and we only hope that ‘this time’ will be different but human nature, the ugly side, rears its head and there we are again in the same negative situation with strained emotions, thoughts and relationships.  If someone does not support you or try to be there to comfort you, celebrate your successes or even acknowledge the meaningful events in your life – is it worth the effort and energy? Do you open yourself up again to the strain, pain and turmoil that was ever-present in the past or just let go and move on the best way you can in your own life?

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